Summary: The Art of Allowing – How to Align with Your Desires and Stop Struggling
This profound teaching explores how life continuously expands through our attention and desires. The key insight is that negative emotions arise when we resist our growth—when the Universe calls us forward, but we hesitate or cling to old ways.
Key Lessons:
- You Are Meant to Expand – Life naturally propels you toward greater versions of yourself. When you align with this flow, you feel joy; when you resist, you feel discomfort.
- Stop Paddling Upstream – You don’t have to force your desires into reality. Like a river, the current will carry you if you release resistance (complaining, over-efforting, or focusing on lack).
- Relief Is the First Step – Instead of demanding instant happiness, seek small emotional improvements (less anger → less frustration → hope → belief).
- Desire ≠ Suffering – Eastern philosophies sometimes equate desire with suffering, but the real pain comes from resisting the natural flow of expansion, not desire itself.
- Thoughts Shape Reality – Holding a positive thought for 17 seconds begins attracting matching energy. At 68 seconds of focused alignment, you activate the Universe’s support, making action effortless.
- Prepare for the Avalanche – When you align vibrationally, abundance comes faster than you can plan for. Your only job? Dream boldly, then let go of “how.”
Final Wisdom:
- Stop comparing your journey to others’—your emotions are your only true guide.
- You can’t “undo” growth—once life expands you, the only way forward is alignment.
- Action follows vibration—inspired action feels joyful; struggle means you’re resisting the current.
Your path to everything you want begins with one thought that feels slightly better than the last.
You are expanding this world by your attention to the details of it. It’s fun to talk with you and exhilarating to help you remember who you are.
The theme of this Art of Allowing workshop is always the same: We want to show you ways that you can consciously keep up with who you are becoming. And we want to remind you that if your own life wasn’t causing the larger part of you to become even more, you would never feel negative emotions. When you don’t go, you only feel negative emotions when life has caused you to prompt your stream to move faster—and you don’t move along with it.
You see, we want you to know that this River of Life—this Source that is you, this Source that you have caused to call you more and more downstream—will never stop calling you. Once you have actualized a desire by living life and giving birth to it, the Source within you will call you to it. And when you go, oh, you feel so good. And when you don’t, you don’t feel so good.
The better you feel, the more you are moving in the direction of who you have become. You don’t have to turn your boat around and begin paddling rapidly toward all the stuff you think is waiting for you downstream. In fact, even the idea that you have to paddle downstream means you don’t understand the power of the stream. It will take you.
You don’t even have to turn your boat around. If you just let go of the oars, the current will turn your boat around. When you let go of the oars—which means when you stop trying, when you stop the struggle, when you stop defending or rationalizing or even focusing on what’s wrong, when you stop complaining—when you’re no longer focused upon the absence of what you want, at that moment, your boat begins to move toward what you want. And in that moment, you feel relief.
Relief is the emotion you want to reach for because it does no good whatsoever to compare yourself. “Oh, I feel bad, and you feel good—so what?” “Oh, I’m sad, and you’re happy—so what?” The comparison of how anybody else is doing in their vibrational gap has nothing to do with you. The only thing that matters to you is how you feel right now and how you feel when you release a little resistance.
In other words, we want you to leave this gathering knowing that your quest is just a little relief. Somebody calls you on the telephone, and they make you so mad. They told you something you did not want to hear, and you think, I am so mad! In the moment you realize you’re feeling that way, what we want you to now realize is that you’re mad, but the Source within you isn’t. You’re not feeling good—the Source within you is.
So what you want to do is release the thought that’s made you so mad. And in releasing it, you will automatically turn toward something that feels better. We’ve never seen any of you be very effective at just suddenly putting your brain on pause: I’m mad—oh, wait, where’s that button? Oh, there. That’s so much better. Who am I? Where am I?
There is no pause button. In other words, you cannot turn your thinking mechanism off. You can only point it in different directions. So if you’re angry about something and you don’t want to be angry, find something that feels good. But the tricky thing is, if you’re angry and have been there for a while, and you say, Oh, I think I’ll turn my attention toward something that makes me feel wonderful—you don’t have that broad of a range because the Law of Attraction won’t give you a bright, fluffy thought when you’re having one that’s really angry.
So the best you can do—and it’s good enough—is find a thought that’s a little less angry, a little less angry, a little less angry, until eventually, you’re a little less angry. And then you’re not angry at all—you’re just frustrated. And then you’re a little less frustrated, and then you’re not frustrated at all—you’re hopeful. And then you’re a little less hopeful—in fact, you’re not hopeful at all, you’re believing.
You’re just reaching for these gradual increments of improving the way you feel. Don’t ask yourself to do the impossible. Don’t say, I feel bad, and I’m going to immediately get feeling good. Say, I feel bad, and I’m going to feel less bad. I’m going to feel less bad. I’m going to feel less bad.
There’s nothing wrong with feeling less bad. Less bad, less bad, less bad, less bad, less bad, less bad, less bad, less mad—until all of a sudden, you feel good. And you’ll know when you find that turning point. You’ll know when you feel frisky again. You’ll know when the day looks bright again. You’ll know when the fog lifts up off of you. You’ll know.
Just don’t demand the impossible. Just do it a little bit at a time. And that’s what we’re here to talk about.
Question from the audience:
When I first started imbibing the Abraham truths—I’ll call them—I found myself having to question other things I used to think were true. I’m trying to synthesize a couple of different teachings I’ve been juggling with all my life.
You talked about desire, and in some Eastern traditions, desire is equated with suffering—that having desire is suffering. I’ve come to the realization—and Abraham has supported this—that we are desire factories, that in fact, desire cannot be stopped, and it’s okay. You can’t be eternal and absent of desire because desire is what calls it all forward.
So my imperfect understanding—that desire is equated with suffering—needs to be replaced with a perfect understanding that the suffering really comes from the lack of immediate fulfillment. That’s where we human beings suffer. It’s not in having desire—it’s in expecting it to manifest immediately.
Abraham’s response:
Let’s talk about it. It’s even more basic than that. You’re right on it, but in very simple terms: When your life has caused you to become vibrationally something that you’re not letting yourself be, you feel bad.
And it is not inaccurate to say that my desire is part of the reason I feel bad, because before I became that expanded being, I didn’t feel as much resistance between who I’m letting myself be and who I’ve become. So we wouldn’t say they’re wrong, because if someone called you on the telephone and said, Hello, you don’t know me. I’m just calling to tell you I will never call you again, you would say, Okay.
But if someone you cared about called and said, I’m never going to call you again, you’d feel bad. Some could say, You feel bad because you have the desire for that person to call you again. If you could get rid of the desire for that person call you again, then you wouldn’t feel bad.
And we say: The trouble with that is, you can’t become less than life has caused you to become. You can’t regress. You can’t undo and be what you were before.
Question:
What causes our feelings of guilt in wanting too much?
Abraham’s response:
Your belief in something that doesn’t exist. Your belief in shortage. Your belief that if you take more than your fair share, someone else will be deprived.
And we say: You can’t get sick enough to help sick people be well. Do you ever say, I’ve been well for so long—I think I’ll be sick for the next 10 years to allow more wellness for the sick people?
Questioner:
I think it does come from an understanding—not an appreciation, but a teaching—of shortage, a teaching of scarcity, a teaching based on action.
Abraham’s response:
And we understand why you’d get there. You have these decided beginnings and endings to your experience that you call birth and death, and so you tend to want to quantify everything in beginnings and endings. It’s hard for you to remember that you are this eternal stream of consciousness.
And so, especially when you are action-oriented—in your action orientation, you see there’s a limit to how much you can do. There’s just a limit to how much you can move around with a physical body in an 8-hour day or a 12-hour day.
In other words, that’s what we meant by getting hold of those oars and trying really hard. You really try hard. We watch you—even in this time of incredible technology, you are working hard just to keep up with your email.
In other words, you are involved in so much action, even though your machines are washing your clothes, your machines are washing your dishes, the machines are harvesting the crops, and the machines are manufacturing the cars.
In terms of real physical action, Esther watches the people building the buildings, and she says to them from a distance, You’re about the only ones that are still picking it up and putting it over there.
In other words, there are still labor-intensive things going on on your planet, but there’s only so much you can do in a period of time in relation to action. And there is so much more you can accomplish when you get into the alignment of thought.
When you begin aligning ideas, you could sit for 15 minutes at the beginning of a day and conjure an image of yourself in your body, or in your environment, or in your business to be, or in your relationship to be. And if you could imagine it to the point that you bring yourself to some level of enthusiasm, you will have accomplished more in that 15 minutes of visualization than you could in 10 years of action.
We’re not kidding you.
Questioner:
I agree. I think the leverage is in alignment.
Abraham’s response:
But most people do not benefit from the leverage in alignment because they think about what they want and then immediately go to what they don’t want. So they don’t maintain enough continuity.
If you hold a thought for as little as 17 seconds, the Law of Attraction responds to it. That’s the point where the Law of Attraction kicks in. Hold it for another 17 seconds, and another level of the Law of Attraction kicks in. Do that until you’ve achieved alignment without resistance for 68 seconds, and you have activated the resources of the universe.
And your action becomes less necessary when you do that. But most people are not aware of the power of thought or the power of energy vibration because they’ve been depending upon action—and complaining about it, too.
In other words, if you’re joyful in your actions, then you’re not contradicting your alignment. And that’s what we wish for you.
We want your action to be the delicious way in which you pluck the fruits of your vibrational labor. We want your labor—there isn’t any—to be vibrational, to be thought, to be energy, to be amusement, to be amazement, to be appreciation.
We want you to direct your thoughts with an eye to what’s happening in your belly while you do it.
Esther’s really been on this visualization jag because she can feel this avalanche of wonderment flowing toward her. And so she’s preparing for the future experience. She knows that their business as it exists, their buildings as they exist, their website as it exists, their financial arrangement in terms of receiving from clients as it exists—nothing is going to be big enough for what’s coming.
She can feel it. You see, and she can’t even imagine what’s coming. She can feel it, but she can’t even get her thoughts around it—it is so big.
And so she’s been lying in her bed in the morning and just trying to find the feeling place of whatever it is—feeling good when it comes. And there was even the idea of an avalanche-like, Something big is coming at me, and it’s going to take me over.
But oh, to ride an avalanche! Do you think being on a surfboard is fun? Riding an avalanche is what you have intended to do from your non-physical perspective.
You see, so she’s been waking up early in the morning and lying in her bed while all is quiet, and she’s been conjuring feelings that give her this feeling of expansiveness and this feeling of exhilaration. And she’s been working to maintain only positive feelings in it, because she’ll feel the positive come, and then she feels a little dread seeping in—like, We’re not ready.
And then she’ll feel the positive come, and then she’ll feel a little bit of dread. And so she knows what she’s working on. She also knows that a little bit of dread in the avalanche of good thoughts she’s having feels very much like a sore thumb. In other words, she can feel it right away.
What we want Esther to understand is that she doesn’t have to figure out how to do it. She only has to take pleasure in dreaming of it.
It’s the universe’s job to figure out how and where and who. It’s your job to figure out what and why.
You see, and so that’s that creative edge you want to hold yourself on. And when you start thinking about what and why, what and why, what and why—solutions to problems appear even before the problem.
So you live problem-free as you are moving forward in this exhilaration that you call life.
Ah, it is so good. Once you begin to harness the power of your true beingness, you are less interested in action—unless the action is utterly pleasing in the process.
You see, you don’t do stuff to make it happen. You do it because you want to do it. It’s already been made to happen through the alignment of energy.
And if you really want to lay this out in a way that almost without exception you can really hear that—think about the multi-billionaire who could not possibly justify his receiving of his wealth through his behavior. He’s not that fast at anything. He can’t manufacture that many cars in a day by himself to justify the multi-billions that he has received.
You have to accept that there are other factors. All your life, you’ve seen people who seem to be doing very little thriving and people who are working their brains out not getting anything in terms of comparison.
You just have to know—and you do—that there are other factors. And we’re here to tell you: The factor is vibration. And vibration is thought. And thought is power. Emotion is your indication of the alignment.
Thought out of alignment? Not powerful.
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