Introduction: The Power of Your Inner Being
We often move through life reacting to circumstances, emotions, and external judgments without realizing that a deeper, wiser version of ourselves—our inner being—is always present, guiding us toward love and wholeness. When we disconnect from this true essence, we experience life through a limited, “pinched-off” version of ourselves, leading to feelings of insecurity, anger, or dissatisfaction—even when those emotions feel justified.
The key to lasting happiness lies in realigning with our whole self, the version of us that operates from love, clarity, and deliberate creation. This blog explores how to shift from resistance to alignment, why contrast serves our growth, and how to cultivate a life of deep satisfaction.
The Two Versions of You: Whole vs. Pinched-Off
1. Recognizing the “Pinched-Off” Self
When you feel:
- Insecure
- Angry
- Resentful
- Justified in negativity
…you are operating from a constricted version of yourself. Even if others validate these emotions (because most people also experience them), they still disconnect you from your true power.
2. The Whole Self: Love, Clarity, and Alignment
Your inner being—the nonphysical, eternal aspect of you—sees life through unconditional love. When you align with it, you:
- Feel deep satisfaction
- Operate from joy, not reaction
- Attract positive experiences
- Experience life with clarity and ease
The choice is always yours: Will you stay pinched off, or will you expand into your wholeness?
Why Contrast Exists: The Role of Step One
“Step One” – Knowing What You Don’t Want
Life presents contrast (things we dislike) for a reason: to clarify what we truly desire. When you witness injustice, frustration, or discomfort, it serves as a catalyst for defining your preferences.
Key insight:
- Contrast is necessary—it helps you refine what you want.
- But dwelling in resistance keeps you stuck.
The Shift to Step Two: Focusing on What You Want
Once you recognize what you don’t want, the next step is consciously choosing what you do want—then directing your energy there.
Example:
- If you dislike negativity, focus on cultivating positivity.
- If injustice upsets you, channel that energy into creating fairness.
This is how deliberate creators shape their reality.
The Satisfaction Factor: Your Alignment Compass
What Is True Satisfaction?
Satisfaction isn’t just fleeting happiness—it’s the vibrational marker of alignment with your inner being. When you feel:
- Deep contentment
- Effortless joy
- Appreciation
- Love without conditions
…you are in full alignment.
How to Cultivate Satisfaction Daily
- Awareness – Notice when you’re resisting vs. allowing.
- Choice – Decide to shift toward better-feeling thoughts.
- Practice – Make alignment a habit, not just a reaction.
The more you prioritize satisfaction, the more your outer reality reflects it.
A Real-Life Example: Choosing Happiness Over Resistance
The Story of the Potted Plant
A participant shared:
- They were in a depressed state when a friend insisted on giving them a plant.
- At first, they resisted (“I’ll kill it deliberately!”).
- But the friend persisted, saying, “Everything dies anyway—but I want you to have something alive to care for.”
- Over time, watering the plant became a small act of joy.
- Reflecting on their initial resistance, they realized: “I was choosing negativity. Now, I choose happiness—no matter how I feel.”
The Lesson
- External influences (like a loving friend) can mirror back our true nature.
- We always have a choice—to stay in resistance or embrace alignment.
Final Thoughts: Living “Happily Ever After” Now
“Happily ever after” isn’t a fairy-tale ending—it’s a daily practice of alignment. Here’s how to live it:
- Acknowledge contrast (step one), but don’t dwell there.
- Define what you want (step two) and focus on it.
- Cultivate satisfaction as your guiding force.
- Choose happiness deliberately, even when old habits pull you back.
Your inner being is always with you, loving and supporting you. The more you align with it, the more your life reflects joy, clarity, and effortless creation.
- Actionable Tip: Start each day by asking, “How can I align with my whole self today?”
- Question for Reflection: Where in my life am I choosing resistance over alignment?
By embracing these principles, you shift from reactive living to deliberate creation—the true path to lasting happiness.
The non-physical you, your inner being who is right there with you in every waking moment noticing things, is noticing things from the love that is you. And when you do less than that, then you feel slightly or greatly diminished because you’re not presenting yourself in your wholeness. You’re presenting yourself in your pinched-off version. When you feel insecure, that’s the pinched-off you. When you feel angry, that’s the pinched-off you—even though the pinched-off you has great justification for being the pinched-off you.
If you gathered other pinched-off yous—if you gathered the pinched-off of the world (and most are, to some degree)—most would agree with you sometimes that you have every justification for the negative emotion that you’re feeling because you did witness something that you didn’t like. You did witness some injustice. But still, witnessing an injustice pinches you off from who you are.
So how do you work this out, Abraham? Because there’s so much that I look around and see that doesn’t feel good to me when I see it.
And we say, “That’s all right. You’re having a step-one moment where you know what you don’t want, which causes an equal knowing of what you do want.” When you know what you don’t want, you know what you do want—even if you are not consciously ready to acknowledge what you do want.
When you witness something that is an injustice (as far as you’re concerned) or something that doesn’t match with the patterning you’ve been programmed with by those you’ve met along your physical trail, you try to teach each other all these rights and wrongs. As you find something you’ve concluded is one of those wrongs, how you ever sort that out is an impossible task. And we give you a whole lot of credit for constantly trying to segregate this world into rights and wrongs, goods and bads.
Because you came as a body of consciousness knowing that you would experience so much diversity, so much contrast, and so much variety that only with all of that variety and contrast could you—as a very powerful and deliberate creator—ever come to any conclusions about what you prefer. And further, you knew that when you found those preferences, others would be finding their preferences too. And you knew, when you decided to come into this body, that the preferences you came to the conclusions of would not all be the same.
Ah, you knew that. You knew that you would want from your unique perspective, and you knew that others would too. And you never intended for a moment to try to corral them into some way of thinking. You never expected to be someone who would move beliefs among the population. Instead, you knew that you would honor the beliefs of the variety of the masses and that, from that collective experience, you would come to your personal conclusions—just in the same way that the artist stands before his canvas with his palette of colors and textures and makes his individual choices about what colors he chooses and where he places them in his picture.
That’s exactly what you intended to do. And not one of you said, “I’ll go forth and wait for them all to get a clear view, and then I will come forth and do exactly as—” Let’s see… Which group of them should I follow? Ooh, there seems to be rivers and currents of decisions—most of them hateful, most of them pushing against each other.
You did not say, “I will come and I will join the loudest group. I will join the group that pushes against in the strongest, most effective way.” You said, “I’ll come. I’ll live. I’ll feel. I’ll decide.” And most of all, you said, “I will feel the perspective of my inner being, who has lived so long with me and who has come to know and be so much with me. And I will choose that which resonates most deeply with who I am,” which means you intended to choose upliftment and love—for others and for yourself.
And that’s the piece we most want to emphasize with you as we’re playing together with you today—because you just can’t be mad at somebody else without shooting yourself in the foot. And you intended to feel good about you. You intended to let the whole of who you are flow into your experience.
So that’s what we are after as we are playing here together today. We want you to realize who you are. We want you to find clarity about who you are. We want you to remember who you are. And most of all, we want you to practice being who you are.
Have you been listening to us for a while? Been reading and listening and knowing and measuring your newfound understanding against your own magnificent life experience? And so we know that you have a strong basis of understanding. And even if you are relatively new here, you’ll catch on fast because this is not a difficult thing to know—and because your inner being already knows it and has been guiding you toward knowing it.
So much of what you hear here today, you will feel resonance with. You will feel a familiarity about it because it’s truly what you know to be. So as we’re chewing together here today, it’s our desire that you come to that personal recollection of the powerful being that you are, of the loving being that you are, and that when you leave this gathering (because it’s going to be true whether you recognize it or not), you recognize that you have changed—that your vibration has found a new set point, and therefore your point of attraction has shifted, and therefore the entire world will be different to you—both in the way you treat the world and in the way the world treats you.
Because when you come into the resonance of the power of who you are, there’s a leverage of alignment. There’s a leverage of well-being. There’s a leverage of clarity and stamina and flexibility and knowledge that you just can’t find without aligning with the whole of who you are.
We are eager to talk with you about anything that matters to you. Do not worry about us. We will get our message across to you, and you will make it easy for us to do that because you’re reaching for the simple laws and principles of the universe that we know so well—and that you know too, at various levels of your being. And they’re going to come to the forefront today in a way that makes you understand how you fit into all of this.
The most important thing that we desire as a result of our co-creating in this way is your discovering of a steady resonance with who you are. And the way that that will demonstrate itself to you right away is in what we want to call your satisfaction in life factor—your satisfaction factor. Because when you find a moment in time in which you are experiencing and knowing that you’re experiencing utter satisfaction, then you are in complete alignment with who you are.
And even more important than understanding that you are in a place where you’re in control of which way you lean (in terms of your alignment with your broader self or your resistance to your alignment with your broader self)—that’s the only thing we really care that you understand as a result of our playing with you, because everything else is working out for you.
You came here just like you meant to. And you are an extension of Source Energy just like you meant to. And your inner being is all over you—knowing you, loving you, helping you, supporting you, guiding you. But only when you feel utterly satisfied (or some degree of it, all the way up to that ecstasy and love and appreciation that you feel sometimes)—only when you are in that vibration of satisfaction (which means the vibration of utterly no resistance)—only then do you really allow yourself to be who you really are and who you intend to be all day, every day.
We want you to know that you can indeed live happily ever after. And by that, we don’t just mean have a goal and then attain it and be happy for the afternoon. We mean happily ever after. We mean happily always after. We mean happily now. Happy now. Happy now. Happy now. Happy now. Happy now. Happy now.
“But what about that stuff that’s going on, Abraham, that doesn’t make me happy?”
Why are you looking at it? Well, because you said step one matters. We did. Step one does matter. Just don’t make a lifetime career of it. Let what you don’t want help you launch your clarity of rockets about what you do want, and let the rest of your time be spent reaching for the satisfaction factor.
Want to talk about what you want to talk about? We’ll meet you where you are. We’ll help you get closer to where you want to be. We’re not trying to get you away from anything or toward anything other than the wholeness of who you know (at some level of your being) you are. I want to help you be you.
So what do you want? Let’s begin right here.
Audience Member:
*”I am here because I am the unconditional love that’s going to light up the room. I got a story—quick little story. In June, I was kind of depressed, and I get a text from my best friend, and she says, ‘I’m bringing you over a potted plant.’ So I read this and I say, ‘I don’t want a potted plant. I’ll have to water it.’ So I texted her right back. I said, ‘Well, don’t bring me a potted plant because I’ll kill it deliberately.’ Deliberately. Because I don’t water plants, and I always kill them. They always die. So you can forget it.
So she texted me back. She said, ‘Everything dies.’ Anyway, 15 minutes later, there she is with a potted plant—with two potted plants. And she says, ‘Now, this one’s going here, and this one’s going over here.’ And the reason is, ‘I want this one in the front so that when people come by your house, they’ll see something alive. They’ll see something growing.’ And she said, ‘And I want you to have something to take care of that’s alive.’
So I thought, ‘Oh, I got to water it.’ And what happened over the next few days—I watered it reluctantly at first, but then it got to be a little bit more fun. And then I knew she was coming over, I said, ‘Oh, I better water this, or I’ll be in trouble.’ But I—I looked back at my text and I saw what I had texted ’cause it’s all there in black and white. And I said, ‘Well, who is this guy? This is Danny Downer.’ And I said, ‘I’m shooting myself in the foot. This is my best friend. I care about this person. And look at what I’m writing. Who am I?’
And over the next couple of weeks, she gave me many opportunities—both her and her daughter—to see in a mirror who I was acting like. And I said, ‘Oh, I don’t like this.’ So at that point in time, I said, ‘Well, I’m never going to do this again. Ever.’ And I made a choice, and I said, ‘No matter how I feel, I’m going to be happy. I don’t care how I feel—I’ll be happy.’ And so I started that, and since then, I’ve been happy. So it’s a big story, isn’t it? It has a lot of pieces to it.”*
Abraham:
And can you feel the piece about the power of influence? In other words, she didn’t let your text to her control her intention around you. In other words, she was not put off by your deliberate intent to put her off. She followed her own impulse, which was inspired by her inner being and your inner being—not by you.
She joined forces with everyone who’s happy around you and didn’t allow herself—she could have gotten her feelings hurt, but she didn’t. She stayed focused upon who you really are and influenced who you really are out into the open where you could feel who you really are.
So the most important question is—and of course, you’ve already given yourself away—but which of those emotions felt best to you?
Audience Member:
The happy one.
Abraham:
And here’s the next important question through it: Do you realize that you do have a choice about which way you lean?
Audience Member:
You have a choice.
Abraham:
And you followed the choice that feels better.
Audience Member:
You think you’re going to keep doing it?
Abraham:
Yes, absolutely.
Audience Member:
You think it’s going to require someone else to lead you there?
Abraham:
No.
Audience Member:
I understand it now.
Abraham:
Do you think that your inner being is focused upon you just like your neighbor is?
Audience Member:
Yes.
Abraham:
Do you think you’re fortunate to have a good friend like that?
Audience Member:
Oh, I’m—
Abraham:
You think you’re fortunate to have an inner being like that?
Audience Member:
Yes.
Abraham:
Are you now aware that you have both?
Audience Member:
Yes.
Abraham:
The both.
Audience Member:
I like the boat.
Abraham:
Yeah.
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